When we first started working on zoom calls and live stream services several months ago, one thing I all of a sudden became aware of was how awkward I felt being on camera. I thought back to “Talladega nights” when Will Ferrell’s character, Ricky Bobby, was being interviewed following a race, and he held his hands up in front of his face and said, “I’m not sure what to do with my hands right now.” The whole point of the scene was to be uncomfortable and awkward. If you have ever found yourself in a situation that you were not familiar with or unsure of how to move forward or what do to, you may have found yourself thinking, “I don’t know what to do right now
There have been many times in the adoption process we have found ourselves saying that very thing. Our home study’s paperwork process has been extensive, and organizations that are supposed to help families adopt can often be the biggest hurdle to making it happen. Yet, throughout the whole process, Kristen and I have reminded one another, “It is all about obedience.”
Thinking back to our adoption of Hazel, the days were filled with uncertainty. We applied to sixteen situations all over the country and were told “NO” by all sixteen, for various reasons. We were often told we were “too religious,” but for most others, we were just not the selection. Thinking back to it now, it is clear that God had things in mind that did not involve anything but trust and obedience from us. When we were unsure of his plan, He was certain of us.
“When we were unsure of His plan, He was certain of us.”
Fast forward to the past few months and the adoption process for Baby #2. God was calling us to trust and obey him again. We shared with you that Kristen was having dreams of Hazel’s birth mother sharing pregnancy news with us and beginning our paperwork to position ourselves for that child. We are happy to share with you that our paperwork is COMPLETE! Throughout the process, we called on several of you to help us get the ball rolling when we hit a snag, and like always, you guys stepped up! Through your prayers and help, we were able to get through the paperwork and submit it for approval.
24 hours after we completed our paperwork, we were in Columbus to pick out a crib (the nursery has to be set up for the home study.) We could not find a crib, so we loaded up in the car and headed back home. As we drove down the road, we received a message from Hazel’s birth mother letting us know that she was not pregnant like she had initially said she was. Again we found ourselves in a moment of uncertainty, unsure what to do. We chose to trust. We were unsure of the plan, but we knew God was certain of us.
We believe that Kristen’s dreams of pregnancy was ultimately a call for us to position ourselves for obedience. What I mean by that is, we believe God was telling us to get our paperwork ready because He had something in mind for us, and we needed to be preparing our hearts, mind, and home for what was coming. That calling has not changed with news of our original plan not coming to fruition. God is still calling us to trust and obey.
A few days later, God seemingly dropped a new situation in our laps. We received a phone call that there was a birth mother that had questions regarding adoption. When we met with her on the phone, she shared with us that when she heard the heartbeat at a doctors appointment, she knew she had to choose life and adoption for this baby but had no idea what that meant. We answered all the questions we knew and encouraged her to communicate with a lawyer and get all the information necessary to make an informed decision that she felt most comfortable with. We have stayed in touch but ultimately believed that God would make it evident if this were to be the situation for us. There was no need for us to press, or push, or try to make things happen. God was in control, just like he has always been. We know that God is still in the miracle business and that he will do exceedingly, abundantly more, when we trust and obey.
We began to pray every night for this birth mother by name that God would give her peace, direction, and clarity related to this decision. We asked that God protect her heart and our hearts, but we also asked boldly that God would bring this child into our family. The call remained the same, trust and obey. While we were uncertain, we believed God was certain of us.
On Thursday, September 24th, we received a phone call asking us if we would be the ones to join her on this adoption journey. Kristen and I are beyond excited to share with you that we will be adding a little boy to our family in February of 2021. The details surrounding the birth mother will stay between The Lord, her, and us. We can tell you that we will not have to travel outside of the state when we go to get him from the hospital, which will make paperwork so much easier on the back end.
We ask you to join us in our prayers for the birth mother. Pray, the Lord will protect her heart as she carries this baby. Pray that he will continue to give her peace and health throughout the remaining months ahead of her and that the Lord will be made much of through this story of adoption. We also ask that you pray for our son Henry Kyle Oliver, by name. Pray that The Lord will protect him, keep him healthy, and that God will be made much of in his life. We are so excited to meet him and already love him more than we can express.
Hazel is going to be a big sister!